#$%@ people say to transracial families


I’ve been thinking, reading and talking a lot about what it will mean for us to be a transracial family. It’s one of those things that is really hard to talk about for fear of offending someone. I appreciate this video because it pokes fun at the things adoptive parents hear, and the awkward conversations that result when people ask about the adoption. I know we will hear (shoot, we’ve already heard) some of them, but to all my friends, family, and the strangers I will meet who want to talk about the adoption but don’t know how, it’s ok. We’ll figure it out together (and probably laugh a lot in the process). Just try to save the craziest questions for when the kids aren’t around.

what we do while we wait (cont’d)




A few more from Macy’s anticipatory art collection. These include a shot of Macy peering through the window as I approached (artwork in proud display), a drawing of a zebra and an airplane (because she’s excited to go there to pick them up), and a picture of what she thinks her brother and sister might look like. I love her excitement and that it has not dwindled even though the process is slow! Clearly she is very excited and thinking about her new siblings all the time.

the “waiting” stage


This is the stage you realize God can put a vicious fight in you for a kid without your blood coursing through his veins. Those early doubts about loving a child without the helpful instincts of biology are put to rest. Of course, you don’t know this kid yet, but you love him in your heart, in your bones. You’ll fight like hell to get to him. You can’t think of anything else. You are obsessed. You dream about him like you did when you were pregnant. You realize that when God said He sets the lonely in families, He meant it, and He doesn’t just transform the “lonely” but also the “families.” He changes us for one another. God can create a family across countries, beyond genetics, through impossible circumstances, and past reason.

-Jen Hatmaker