Just about the time I had accepted the fact that, since courts in Uganda are closed, we would likely not hear any update about our court/travel date until AFTER the 15th of August, our adoption journey took another unexpected turn.
I had emailed our agency asking if there was any way I could send a “care package” to the kids while we wait, and the response I got blew me away. It said, “Hi, Jess, you may prefer to deliver a care package in person… just in, can you make an August 15th court date work!!? : ) : ) You would all need to arrive in Kampala no later than August 11th or 12th.”
I still don’t think I have recovered from the shock.
Needless to say, we said yes (!!!), and now we are awaiting “official” confirmation of our court date (read: even though I am saying it’s “go” time, there could still be yet another twist. I’m just too excited to wait for any more official word. 12 days is NOT a lot of time to plan). I’ve started to look into flights and lodging more seriously, and have started to take my to do and packing lists a lot more seriously as well (thank you to everyone who is helping me with that). There is a lot to be done, but we now have major incentive for the work… we will meet our kids in less than 2 weeks. 2 weeks? What?! YES.
So, though the process continues to be everything but predictable, I am thankful for good news and for an agency that is working tirelessly and quickly to get us to our kids. I’m also thankful for the army of people who are in this with us. We are in good company and are well taken care of.
Even Macy wanted to help with the preparation of the twins room so she drew this design layout and posted it on the wall for all the helpers to “follow.”
It’s been a busy week of preparing, and we are fortunate to have a great crew of people who have volunteered to help us paint, shop, organize, repair furniture, build cribs, wash clothes… you name it! We are so thankful and we feel very taken care of and very loved. I didn’t get to take pictures of it all (shocker, I know), but here are a few I was able to get.
Fell asleep last night thinking about what we will name our daughter.
It is a very unique and difficult position to be in – to have so much love and yet so little power. Hang in there my friend. The day will come when they will finally be with you, your hands can finally offer comfort and your heart can rest in a way it simply cannot do when your children are a world away.
-excerpt from an email from college-roommate and fellow adoptive mom, Haley
As we head into a new week, I thought I’d let you all know that Ugandan courts are now officially closed for one month. I’m told I should not expect to hear anything about a potential court-date during that time, and that even the August 15th “reopen” should be taken with a grain of salt. So, we wait! (Once we get a court date though, we make travel plans and go pick up our kids… it’s the last thing left to do!)
The wait continues to be a challenge for me mentally and emotionally as I try to figure out how to exist in this space of knowing who our kids are (and the excitement that comes along with that), but also accepting that I can’t be there to hold, protect, love, and advocate for them. I’ve received some great encouragement from a couple of moms who have gone before me- they make me feel less crazy and offer good insight about how to deal with this complex love and longing. I’ll post some of those quotes and more of my musings on this in some future blogs. After all, this is supposed to be a “quick” update, ha.
The next few weeks I will keep myself busy and distracted by prepping the room, researching travel arrangements, working on packing lists (acquiring all the stuff we “need”), laundering some clothes I saved for them, reading books and blogs in prep, and enjoying some quality summer time with the fam. I’m thankful to report that I’m not doing these things alone, but that many people (many of you) have volunteered to help out with these tasks. This is particularly good news to me. Thanks to all of you who are along on this journey and who offer your hands, ears, shoulders, words to encourage, comfort, help, and cheer us on. Fair warning: if you’ve said you’ll help, I’ll be calling. Or, it’s highly possible I already have.